. >>> the more time you spend together in a nonstressful environment, make all of the jokes about cooking that you want. the fact of the matter -- that me time, is our time. >> let me ask you another question, cooking a scrambled egg, do you cook them hard and fast or let them cook slowly? >> it all depends on the pan. if it's nonstick, it's super high heat. you don't have to add a lot of butter to it the amount of fat will affect it and add holy water to it as well. >>> can't you just imagine -- how long did it take you to come up with spicing up married life? >> to honestest with you, 12 chapters, one for each month. it's only 12 chapters, but it took me about five years because i was compiling information from different studies, whether religious or secular about how to improve and strengthen married life. we finally released it on september of 2012, which just happened to be mom and dad's 50th wedding anniversary month. >> they got the dedication. >> they did. are you kidding me. >> how do you minister people through a cook book? >> it's a great question. i think when we eat, we think